| | This is going to be short and not very sweet.
Where is the common sense element of modesty? Has it gone AWOL? In this lovely modern age, we have ample research into the ways the male and female minds work. Seeing certain things makes the mind go in certain directions.
The way I dress has nothing to do with patriarchal power or complicated philosophy. I dress to look good without being an object of lust.
I realize there are differences of opinion, and within a certain latitude, I am fine with that.
But I believe the bottom line is this: Do you want to be an object, or not? It's not so hard to know what will cause you to be perceived that way. If you can't tell, and sometimes women can't, ask a trusted guy if something you're wearing is a problem.
Don't want to follow his advice? Fine. But know that you're not being modest. He's not trying to assert his power; he's telling you how the male brain is hardwired to work.
Common sense says that showing certain things is immodest, and science confirms the effects it has.
If you don't care, go for it, but know that you're objectifying yourself; if you do care about modesty, use your brain. I really don't think it's that hard.
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| | Posted 4/29/2009 10:50 AM - 45 Views - 6 eProps - 9 comments
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